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When did you find out about the affair?
There's no wrong answer — just be honest.
Within the last few days or weeks
A few months ago
6 months to a year ago
Over a year ago — maybe years
Has the full truth come out?
Recovery can't start until disclosure is complete.
Yes — I know everything
I think so, but I'm not completely sure
No — I'm still finding things out
They won't talk about it at all
Is the affair completely over — no contact of any kind?
Be honest with yourself on this one.
Yes, it's fully over
I believe so, but I have doubts
I'm not sure — there might still be contact
No, it's still happening or just recently ended
How is your partner responding to what happened?
Their response tells us a lot about where things stand.
Taking full responsibility and doing whatever it takes
Remorseful, but gets defensive when I bring it up
Minimizing it — acting like I should be over it by now
Blaming me for it, or refusing to acknowledge the damage
Can you get through a normal day without being hit by a wave of anger, grief, or anxiety?
This measures where your nervous system is right now.
Most days, yes
Some days are okay, but I still get blindsided
Rarely — it's on my mind constantly
No — it affects everything, all the time
Have you been able to talk about what happened without it turning into a fight or a shutdown?
Communication capacity is one of the strongest predictors of recovery.
Yes — it's hard, but we can do it
Sometimes, but it usually escalates or one of us shuts down
We've tried, but it always goes badly
We don't talk about it at all
Before the affair, how would you have described your relationship?
This gives us context for what you're rebuilding from.
Strong — this completely blindsided me
Good, but there were some cracks we ignored
We'd been struggling for a while
Honestly, we were already in trouble
Do you want this to work — even if you're not sure it can?
Every answer here is okay. Just be real.
Yes — I'm willing to fight for this
Part of me does, but part of me isn't sure
I don't know anymore
I'm only still here because of the kids, finances, or logistics
If you could begin real healing in just three focused days — with a therapist who specializes in exactly this — is that something you'd be open to?
Yes — I'm ready to do whatever it takes
I'd be open to it if I knew more
I'm not sure — I'd need to talk to my partner first
That feels like too much right now
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